Soft Dates, remove pits
Coconut Oil (heaping spoonful)
Cocoa Powder (big shakes to taste)
Gluten free oats (fine chopped) or almond flour
Seasonings of choice: cinnamon, cardamon, for example
Smoosh together dates about 42, with oil, cocoa, oats and or almond flower with seasonings, to form a ball – let chill to make rolling into dots easier or to finish recipe at a later date 😉
Roll with wet hands into desired size, roll in a platter of Coconut Flakes to coat the outside (or cocoa powder or cocoa powder and cinnamon mix)
Refrigerate, last for up to 2 weeks
Mindfulness has grown, surpassing a phase as a trend, into a societal focus. To be mindful feels comforting, acceptable, assures the practicant they are doing ok in life. be doing a good job at being human. Mindlessness must to be the reason for all the problems in the world. If everyone was more mindful things would be different. Right? And if that were correct, then why have people not realized all the bountiful aspects of mindfulness around the world?
Mindfulness does not always account for a key are of relational importance: nuance and difference. Cultural differences, personal values, social policies are not neatly dealt with in a single world order-though there are presumptions floating around about this. Social policy is a complex and valuable area to look into as a cultural and real phenomena forming the fundamental boundaries of acceptable behavior.
What associations to you have with the term: mindfulness. Where did those associations come from? Did you come up with them up yourself? Entirely? If you follow the ways the thoughts were put there, will your brain be stretched apart like putty? Will you feel like the world is unraveling, will you feel stressed and uneasy? Saddled with doubt? What’s wrong with those kind of feelings? And why is it psychotherapy is the first place you might start to think about where this kind of thinking “belongs.” Calling something crazy or a conspiracy theory is often a fast way to right off, wrong ways of being mindful to accept the so called right ways of being mindful. But if your mind is your freedom to choices, your pathway to creating the life you want, with the responsibility of the creating of life with you at the driver seat, would it really be so dangerous to consider the associations to mindfulness were not put there by some kind of accident, but rather through a history of considered actions.
The basis of thinking itself can be considered formed out of social policy, or the invisible but real social boundaries of acceptable and unacceptable thinking.
In this day, we can look towards the boundary as a line, acceptable or unacceptable, and mindfulness as associated with positive or negative thinking. These kind of constructed ways of thinking then create mindfulness as a concept of way of thinking in two ways: acceptable and unacceptable thinking.
This makes mindfulness practices into ripe training grounds for rhetoric and social policy training. This effectively subverts the intention of mindfulness as a means to control thought.
Controlling thoughts, based on the premises established in social psychology, or the tendency the human will have towards conformity as a basis for survival. Survival within the social group, and survival as a living entity. The two are deeply intertwined in Psyche so that it feels like the soul, or who and what we are.
In this way, invite yourself to not be mindful, but instead to think for yourself. Think critically, meditation without a goal, simply be and exist with yourself, the thoughts that come, and start a path of inquiry into those thoughts. Observe the judgements, and consider a mindful life a life full of thoughts, and the entire spectrum of life free from thoughts.
Does a plant or color think itself that shape or color? Or is the plant or color the way that it is? And does your positive or negative view of the plant or color change how the color is, or does it rather change how you would regard having the plant or color in your proximity. And if you tried to banish the negative category of form or color from your mind, would it obliderate its existence? or would you be lying to yourself about its existence?
The way of thinking is that it happens. The qualty of thought can be a generative way of thinking, that builds bridges to ways of thinking where instead of slotting a thought into the positive or negative boxes pre-built by the social policies of mindfulness, a new expanse of freedom can be experienced-if not in your daily life choices, but in the way you think.
Free thinking costs energy. You may find new choices appear as the quality of thought evolves, develops, changes forms. You may find conclusions previously acceptable are no longer the same. At a certain point, you may wonder, when enough is enough. When is the thinking sufficient for the quality of life you wish to create?
And that is where I would like to propose the idea, a thought is sufficient in as much as the reality of your life matches as much of the ideal of it. Cookie cutters can give a recipe a predicable form, but if it is really being the lead creative director the quality of your life: your health, you relationships, your work, your home and so on-then it is really you who decides what is satisfactory or not.
Consider the entry on Sufficent: early 14c., from Old French soficient “satisfactory,” or directly from Latin sufficientem (nominative sufficiens) “adequate,” present participle of sufficere “to supply as a substitute,” from sub “up to” (see sub-) + combining form of facere “to make, to do” (from PIE root *dhe- “to set, put”).etymology.com
Sufficient thinking can then be considered a personal choice. Without a ruler or guide outside of yourself telling you what is right or wrong way of being mindful, you are right in the main seat of creating your own thoughts, making your own mind, and breaking out of the often cyclic tension derived from social policy and individual freedom to make up your own mind.
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Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. – Lao Tzu
If you do not feel strong and courageous on your path, look within and around. Are you treating yourself and those around you with care and compassion? Or are you succumbing to fears and doubts? The choice to love may not come easy. At the beginning of anything new there are stumbles, and so practising to choose love grows stronger and easier. Over time, following the choice of the heart feels more and more natural. And this nature of following our heart follows that of our true nature. All else not of the heart, resides in the temporary, for all that transcends generations and withstands time, works in tune with Mother Nature, and this nature has its connection with the human body within the realm of the heart.
The cult of positivity has seemingly good intentions. Within certain mental frameworks, orientations, people can encourage their personal trajectory with focus to work toward creating the goals they wish to make. The counterparts to this kind of activity when they become out of balance, can lead toward more stress and even wishful thinking.
Wishful thinking rarely delivers upon the cult of positivity’s promises of a sunnier tomorrow. The people who are promoting happiness often have another agenda-sometimes something to do with empowerment, sometimes to do with an ideal or image of “how you ought to be.” Happiness can become a badge of success. As if who wants to accidentally cause themselves harm by hanging out with unhappy people. The thing about happiness, is it is not a state of being, it is a sense or emotion within the body. Attempting to achieve a perpetual state of being for the sake of an idea about what is normal, or natural from the outside in, can have serious ramifications upon the psyche of the individual partaking in the perpetual pick-me-up business. Things digress from good intention, towards manipulation and then internalized self-manipulation. Attempting to change things with wishes and vision-boarding alone doesn’t empower anyone. It actually disables people. When wishes turn into goals, and vision boarding is used as a tool toward maintaining focus while working toward a goal, this is an entirely different, and potentially useful, activity. The difference is in developing discernment.
The cult of positivity can also contain something more insidious, and that is potential for inadvertent victim-blaming. When people become so busy within their own lives, stressed, and over-taxed, they are not capable of extending a two-way line of communication to people who are seeking guidance something strange can happen. This strange thing leads people toward wondering and perhaps asking themselves, “what, what just happened.” When a person partakes in an action that removes another person’s experience, such as, “well that’s your problem,” or “you’ll work it out,” or “try to think about it this way and everything will work out better,” the message that can come across to someone in a vulnerable situation as another kick while they are down. Victim-blaming tends to annihilate or create a sense of erasure from the suffering someone is partaking in. By encouraging someone to manipulate their own thoughts and feelings, is like encouraging someone in a prison to take on a straight jacket. Mentally wrangling ourselves into feeling or thinking something that does not jive with what’s going on inside the body will not make anyone, or any society any better, or more positive. This is not to say it is any one’s personal responsibility to offer guidance, but that if we look objectively over the course of our lives, there are often more times than we can remember where we made our way into a goal by the assistance of other people. A good example could be when a singular person has made a discovery, a creation that is celebrated, people are often thanking a large list of names. People who achieve their large goals have this kind of understanding. In as short as a few deep breaths, we can find ourselves the kind of time to consider, perhaps someone is seeking information and to learn ways towards working out of an unhealthy situations. This half a minute-or five minute exchange can be incredibly powerful practice. And with practice, many activities become easier, require less effort from us. And the useful parts about offering this kind of relating are nearly endless but often involve learning, sensations of joy or satisfaction.
Excessive emotional taxation, such as the demand or expectation to be nonstop friendly remains pervasive in many consumer cultures as the idea that happiness sells more products. This is simply not true, as there are a number of cultural phenomena that sell well, such as cynicism. There is also a lot of money people are making in depression.
The thing to begin doing is not to run away from ourselves or try to outsmart cultural waves as they come at us through streams of media. The most useful thing we all still have available to us, is our bodies. The body has an uncanny ability to provide senses, such as sensations of tension and unease as the preliminary experiences before developing into something more serious or potentially life threatening. Some people become scared when thinking in the terms of prevention, and logistically so. The idea there is something to prevent puts the mind in the framework of the future. And we are never in the future, not yet. We are always right here. And so starting from the orientation of being right here, and then seeing: ok this is where I want to go. Let’s use this example of excellent or radiant health, then you are in the position of now, creating the health you want in the future. Which puts you toward steps and choices which create health right now. And people get so involved with what they are doing now, forgetting about the prevention/fear mode of working, which tends to go on nonstop fixing, they someone find themselves healthy, and quite often wholly content.
And when people feel whole, content, life and all its parts whether rough or sad, confusing or crappy, happy or blissful, life flows in a state of balance that ebbs in flows within an area that feels natural. The boundaries don’t come from an ideal, or group of people, the boundary comes from within. The sensation of the body where all feels in balance. This sense of harmony, ability to withstand and navigate around disharmonies, grows, over time. And the cult of positivity, become other cultural phenomena people look back upon, and say what was that all about? Can you believe what people were thinking? The social stream becomes background noise, scenery along the way.
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Lack, can sometime be described as a sensation within the body or a condition around the body that does not fit a picture of what someone wants their reality to looks like. Both of these descriptions points towards a feeling, or a condition, and both of these areas are guideposts towards what a sense of lack points back to-lack of choice.
When a choice has not been made, often life seems mysterious, mystical, enigmatic, spiritual, aspirational-take your pick of word to describe a sort of head-swirly sensation.
The first place to invest time and effort in this situation could be logic and reason. When people reach straight for thinking, that’s fine. Yet humans are more than mind alone, humans have flesh. By tending to both body and mind, a person begins to unify the body and the mind. This kind of effort has lasting benefits in the area of muscle memory-in that a human nervous system can be a source of intelligence, along with the more critical aspects of thinking.
Back to lack. Lack is something different than hungry, yet has a similar gnawing quality. It wants to be recognized. Ever been hungry? How long can you go before needing to make a choice to do something about that hunger? And in the choice to address the sensation of hunger, are also several additional choices that come along.
Sometimes a lack signals itself as a disharmony in within the body. A sense of unease, disease, pain. These signals grow in need of some maintenance, something that requires repair when they are ignored long enough. Signals tend to grow in intensity, and sometimes they grown into alarm. The more intensity that grows can lead toward a tense relationship between a person, their sense of harmony, purpose and ability in life.
When a sense of lack arises in vague sensations, slightly indiscernible, a sense of dragged down need may arise from a discrepancy between and idea and reality. The world today is full of ideas about lifestyle, conditions of living, images to aspire to. To achieve a look of success or write a narrative as if it were to mean something about you, as yourself. And all of these factors described are externally focused. Nothing wrong in that, but external focus often tends to lead to more lack.
What is lack really imply? A lack of choice. The fundamental human freedom all people have is choice. Now, everyone has different choices based on their reality. Comparing who’s reality is better than or this kind of activity really falls in line with the area of gossip and is participating in a choice that leads nowhere. And if someone wants to experience wholeness and fullness in their life, its not so much you have to go places but more rather have something clear in mind you want to create.
Life can tend to feel personal. What does personal imply? Values and a sense of what feels true to that person. A lot of things people tend to get tangled up in are not personal, they are based in conditions and expectations. In these situations, people feel they are imprisoned.
When the goal is to create a life which you love, to enjoy health, happiness and create the life adventure of your design, then lack is something to take a look.
Look into the sensation of lack. Take a moment to observe as closely as you can, to question something that feels to be lacking. That lack is likely something you want. From there, you can start to learn the kinds of choices and actions you can make to create a sense of wholeness. If you try to trick your mind into thinking the lack doesn’t exist, that can work for a time, but will ultimately lead to more sense of lack, perhaps frustration or other often undesirable outcomes.
Hone in on your sense of lack and find what it is you are wanting. Be as concrete with yourself as you can here-think in terms of pictures, so that it becomes almost tangible, something you can feel, and hold in your hand. If being concrete is something you are not yet ready for, that’s perfectly fine as well-for there are a number of other activities you can do to enjoy your life in the meantime. In these times where you are unsure, or unclear, and live with a sense a vague unease, a sense of lack, remember-life is not happening at you or to you. Life happens with you and through you.